How Can Women Embrace Their Sensuality

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Since time immemorial, women have been seen as figures who are only sensual for the sake of others. However, a woman’s accepting and celebrating these for her own self-gratification is considered socially taboo. In fact, so taboo is female sexuality and sensuality that about 50% of young Brit women themselves have an inaccurate grasp of the female anatomy and its needs. This double standard is further exacerbated once women are either postnatal or menopausal. Because hormonal changes in these times lower women’s libido, many incorrectly think they no longer want to feel sensual themselves.

But being in touch with your body and the pleasure it deserves is universally important. When women, of all ages and life stages, can embrace their sensuality, they can experience a healthier, happier, and more satisfying life. While the journey may be different for everyone, here are some ways women can start slowly embracing their sensuality:

Shed any shame

Sensuality is commonly attributed to those who are more daring or risqué. However, sensuality is more than just sex. Rather it is to do more with how connected you are with your body. As such, it’s important to start by letting go of the shame society has attached to one’s body. According to body image reports, 25% of British women felt a sense of shame. This, in turn, affects their self-confidence and mental health.

To let go of such shame, try to cut out influences that double down on sexist stereotypes. This can start by avoiding any media that (directly or indirectly) positions sensuality and women as embarrassing or bad. Instead, immerse yourself with resources that approach women’s bodies in an empowering way. By doing so, you can free yourself from subliminal messages that inhibit your natural sensuality and yearning to be open about it.

Explore self-pleasure

While male masturbation is openly discussed, female masturbation is often considered an embarrassing topic. A 2020 survey even reveals that 83% of respondents think there’s a stigma with female self-pleasure. Though, much can be gained if women were more open to self-pleasure. Evidence strongly suggests that masturbation can improve women’s overall well-being. During and after female masturbation, the body releases hormones like vasopressin, oxytocin, and serotonin. Together, this calms the mood, regulates moods, and boosts feelings of satisfaction. This is especially beneficial for women whose hormones are in flux, like those who’ve just had a baby or are in menopause.

What’s more, self-pleasure is incredibly varied. Unlike what the media portrays, masturbation can be achieved in different ways according to your preference. This means you can use your hands or toys that you find stimulating. If you’re new to toys, try something discreet like a bullet vibrator. These may be less intimidating and easy to handle. Strategically designed to provide clitoral stimulation (which is critical for 75% of women), these toys can be used on a variety of other erogenous zones, too. This will let you explore your own body and figure out what you like—something that’s otherwise frowned upon in society.

Talk about intimacy

We often encourage women to set limits but not so much to open. This is especially true regarding their own satisfaction and pleasure. But talking about intimacy is just as important in breaking down toxic barriers and setting up healthy ones. As a matter of fact, sexuality is part of the six different elements of personal boundaries. This means knowing and communicating your personal needs and wants. Since this may be an initially daunting task, try to do so first with those in your immediate circle.

For starters, you should openly communicate your desires with your partner. If you’re single, then try talking to your close friends about your interests and concerns. Remember, there’s nothing dirty or arrogant about talking about sensuality. On the contrary, it is an effective way to share your more vulnerable side. If you’re unsure how to broach the topic, look for sexual education books. These resources can illuminate the scientific and societal factors that colour our intimate conversations. Over time, this may help you gain a better perspective on sensuality and sex that you can carry over into your discussions. When done regularly, talking openly about these topics has been proven to make women feel more confident, safe, and content.

Unlearning the biases and stigmas around female sensuality may take time. Especially, if you’re in a stage in your life wherein you may be feeling less attractive or engaged. Once you’ve accepted and explored your own sensuality, you can unlock a new side of yourself that is uninhibited and empowered.


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